They are both very dangerous and best avoided. I think people have an inherent tendency within them to have a small bit of jealousy, about certain things, but sometimes it really gets out of hand. What amazes me is how we are all happy to believe stories and gossip when we are not involved, but when you are involved you sometimes realise just how ridiculous it is – or in the case of jealousy, just how far off target the other person is. I only have to look at office staff parties and the number of people who got trouble from their partners afterwards for allegedly “misbehaving” or showing too much interest in other guys.

Strangely enough its always the quietest, probably most conservatively behaved person at the party who is later accused by her boyfriend of misbehaving, of having drank too much or worse, flirting with the boss. In some cases, in reality, we are talking about people who don’t even say hello to the boss or any other male working at the office and yet the boyfriend seems to believe something is up! The funniest part of course is that generally at office parties everyone watches their behaviour far more closely than when they are out with their own friends, because there are always going to be repercussions and stories if you do cross the line. It is when you don’t cross the line, you don’t do anything wrong and still get trouble for it that it seems somewhat ridiculous. There will always be people who believe things that are not true, and unfortunately there are too many of them. One experiences that in business as well and sometimes one does take it seriously, but I have learned to ignore most of it.