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If you are wondering what phone stacking is – well, read on to find out! It is an effort by people to get people interacting more socially, particularly when they go out for drinks or to a restaurant as opposed to interacting with their telephones. Essentially, if for example you go out with a group of 5 other people, you all put your phones together on the table in a stack on top of each other, face down. The first person to pick up their phone pays the bill for the entire group.
Apparently, this works wonders, and most of the time nobody picks up a phone and then you all divide your bill equally, but it certainly does motivate those, who wish to grab their phone all the time, to show just a little bit of self-control and resist that urge. It is so easy to criticise the youth of today who are all developing hunchbacks, while they lean over iPads, iPhones and computers given to them by their parents, but in most cases it is the parents, who complain about too much screen time, that spend half their time, in front of the children, fiddling with their phones. Of course, like me, they always try to justify that what they are busy with is actually an important message that has to be dealt with urgently. The phone has become an all-encompassing device and these days, if you have an automated programmed car, you can even use it to summon your car to the front door, to turn on the air-conditioning before you get into it and not to mention using your phone for keyless driving, but you really don’t need to know the latest weather reports, currency rates and to check your e-mails at Friday night at 8pm when you are out with friends!
Posted by Michael de Broglio on Friday 15-Jul-16
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tersia said:
on Tuesday 23-Aug-16 08:00 AM
I like this, I hate it when I am at a friend or we are out and everybody is constantly on their phones - going on facebook and Instagram and just actually chatting with someone else. I am properly then very old fashioned but to me that is very rude!! Think I will suggest this the next time we go out...
Sinead said:
on Wednesday 20-Jul-16 08:53 AM
A group of my friends actually did this once. I think it's a brilliant idea. I, however, just like Angelique, also like snapping when I'm with friends so that I have those photos as memories. Social media made us want to do it lol :(
I hate it when people are sitting on their phones if they're with others and I certainly won't do it. It's just rude.
Natasha said:
on Wednesday 20-Jul-16 08:52 AM
Actually thinks its a good idea because sometimes you will talk to someone and they would be on their phone and not hear a thing you say .What is the use of going out with that person if they are on their phone anyway .
Angelique Jurgens said:
on Monday 18-Jul-16 03:35 PM
Brilliant idea except for those who like Instagramming and snapchatting away :). I am one of those that like take photographs as memories but I won't blatantly sit on my phone the entire evening. I think it is rude and annoying when someone does it to me because they are certainly not really listening to what you say.
Suzanne said:
on Monday 18-Jul-16 02:03 PM
I think this I brilliant! So often we look around and see people sitting at a table together and not talking to each other. Although I love my phone - I agree that you need to take some time away from the screen and actually have a real life conversation. A while ago I read an article that a mom wrote - she decided to put away her phone and concentrate on what her child is doing. She only then realized how much she actually misses. Every little look and smile. This inspired me to do so every evening we get home.
Juliet said:
on Monday 18-Jul-16 12:49 PM
We have a rule at home - no cell phones allowed until Adam is asleep. You can check it once in a while when you are out of his sight but my son is not growing up being ignored because of damn cell phones.
Henrietta said:
on Monday 18-Jul-16 09:27 AM
The most annoying thing is having a conversation with someone and they busy typing. Not just annoying but rude. I think phone stacking is a very good idea especially when socializing with friends and family. I know lots of people who would die without their phone is actually sad.
Johann said:
on Monday 18-Jul-16 09:09 AM
I am very bad at this, or so I am usually told in texts received from people sitting at a table with me.
Alexis said:
on Monday 18-Jul-16 09:01 AM
I have heard of this before, it is a brilliant idea. Often you go out and you will see the table across from you just sitting on their phones and saying nothing to each other. What is the point then, you might as well just go out by yourself.
Sally said:
on Monday 18-Jul-16 08:53 AM
I agree with Zindy. If you have a small baby at home I will definitely not phone stack at all. If my children are with me I do not have a problem at all, because family and family time is very important to me.
Ashleigh said:
on Monday 18-Jul-16 08:52 AM
Its a great idea actually, I will definitely keep this in mind the next time we are with friends. Hopefully I wont be the one fitting the bill though. As a mom, habits of checking your phone can be your downfall in this situation.
Safia said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 11:09 PM
hahaha, i absolutely loved David's comment.on the spot! this young generation are incapable having a real conversation with a real human being in a real language using their vocal cords,so true.
Zanell said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 05:03 PM
I find it extremely rude and annoying when I go out for dinner with friends and they are on their cellphones. When I am with family and friends I'm usually not bothered with my phone.
Chanika said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 04:56 PM
Great idea!!this is the worst thing when your talking to somebody and then they working on their phones.
Nicolle said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 04:47 PM
Cell phone etiquette shouldn't just be an "idea". One should be courteous to those you are with, be it at work or socially. You should turn off your phone if it will be interrupting the conversation, consultation or activity.
Cornelie said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 04:26 PM
Once some off our friends went away for a weekend we all had to put our phones off at the gate an placed same in the cubbyhole and only when we left that Sunday only then did we hand the phones back again, I must say it was the nicest weekend ever phone free we all had something to talk about.
Brenda van den Bergh said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 04:15 PM
There is nothing more annoying than visiting someone or going out for dinner with someone and they are constantly on their phone. This is a very good idea when going out for dinner at a restaurant with a group of friends and i am definitely going to implement it in the future.
I also want to impliment this with family as well, in that when it is family time all cellphones be placed in a bowl and quality time is spent with loved ones.
Cellphones/Technology have really become a serious issue in today's life and it is destroying relationships. Communication is also not what it used to be as people just know what to talk about anymore.
Nikita said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 03:56 PM
Excellent idea! There is nothing I hate more than talking to a person who doesn't even look up from their phone. Wackhead on 94.7 actually spoke about this not too long ago - apparently there have been studies done to show that even if you think otherwise you definitely do not process what someone is saying to you if you are on your phone whilst they are talking.
Melissa said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 03:37 PM
This is a really good idea, it is rude to be on your phone when someone is busy talking to you.
Liesl said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 03:34 PM
I often think of how people made things work way back then before technology as we know it today and cell phones. I personally believe in spending quality time with close friends and family.
Jolene said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 02:42 PM
I heard about this a while ago, I do think its a good idea. When I was younger my siblings and I we were not allowed to be on our phones when we went out for dinner with my parents, my dad always said if he has to pay the bill he can make the rules.
Catherine said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 02:22 PM
I recently read an article entitled "10 Daily Habits That Will Radically Improve Your life" by Chris Dessi. One of the habits is to shut off the electronics for short increments and soak yourself in the moment. I try to practice this every time I get home so that I pay undivided attention to my child.
Kaylee said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 01:18 PM
I wish I didn't have a phone. I am pretty useless with technology and would prefer just to live under a rock. I can't stand people that are constantly on their phones. When you are old and grey and you going to look back at that time you went out for dinner with your loved ones and sat looking at your phone or are you going to cherise the memories made with your loved ones.
Jessica M said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 01:07 PM
I don't even get to look at my phone when I get home. I actually even forget I have one lol. I believe in family time and unless it's really important I will attend to it otherwise I won't even look at it.
Clare said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 01:02 PM
I think this is a Good Idea, the Other Day I went to Mug and Bean and there was A group of Girls sitting at a table next ro me the group was silent I think there fingers did more Taking then what they did or maybe they where messaging each other. For a Mothers Point Of View I agree with Zindy we need to check on our Kids.
Melissa P said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 12:03 PM
I LOVE this idea. I will certainly be trying it the next time I go out with family and friends. I've seen family sitting around the table not saying one word because each and every one of them were on their phones. Our phones takes away time with family and friends. I can't wait to try it.
Angelique P said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 11:38 AM
We did this before and it really works.
It is so tempting not to have your phone when you are so use to it being with you all the time.
Its really rude when you have a conversation with someone and that person answer a call or a message.
Technology is running our lives these days.
Tamaryn said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 11:00 AM
I often see parents out with their children who spend more time on their phones that with their children, those are moments they will never get back.
tamzyn said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 10:11 AM
My phone is usually lost in my hand bag or car - sounds like a free meal for me! I can't belive people can get thier car pulled to their front door by using their phone- how interesting.
Helen said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 09:53 AM
When we go out to meet our friends or family, we will always leave our devices at home.
It is supposed to be quality time with people we spend time with, and phones always will destruct and will take attention away. And I would say you are also not showing respect to your friends if you agreed to meet with them for cup of coffee and all the time busy on the cell phone or tab.
Thabitha said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 09:18 AM
I will hate to go out with a person who will be staring and laughing on his or her phone the entire time the question is why are we sitting or drinking at the pub and paying a bill for someone who is worried about what is happening at the other world we can sit home and play with our phones
Bianca said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 09:17 AM
I think this is a great idea, I am extremely disciplined when it comes to being on my phone at dinner or any social event. I'm not much of a social media person so I don't check in anywhere or update on my happenings and maybe that's why it doesn't really bother me at all.
Joyce said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 09:15 AM
I think Phone stacking teaches people discipline
Nina said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 09:13 AM
I like the idea of phone stacking, but at this stage most of my friends are students or they only recently started working, so the person that pick up their phone first will probably go to the bathroom and disappear when the bill comes or the bill will still have to be divided between everyone at the end of the day.
Mathilda said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 09:10 AM
This is so clever!
I really think Ill try it next time when we go for dinner with friends...
Its actually sad to think people cant social without their phones anymore we need to start having "real" conversations face to face again
Latoya said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 08:59 AM
I totally agree with you Zindy - I will defiantly be the one to pay the bill,As I am paranoid mother when I go out cause I will call that baby sitter every half an hour lol :) Its just a mother instinct which you cannot prevent.
Daniella said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 08:54 AM
I was once at Tashas in Sandton and the table next to me was a husband , wife, and a little girl , the parents each had earphones in as they were watching something on their ipad , where as the little girl was looking around and didnt know what to do because her parents were too indulged in their ipads that they couldnt communicate with their own daughter.
If that is how they they do family nights then that's just depressing.
charlotte said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 08:53 AM
I like this idea! When my husband and I are going out with the kids we make sure to leave our phones at home. We spend quality time together as a family not to be disturbed by unnecessary messages, phone calls, emails, facebook messages, WhatsApp etc. We also make a point of it when visiting friends to leave our phones behind at home. There is nothing so irritating when you visit people ant they are constantly on their phones while in your company! I will most certainly be implementing this when we have guests visiting next time! I will be thinking of a punishment for those who can't leave their phones......
Lucretia said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 08:45 AM
My friends and I have been stacking for a while now. It has become so sad when going out with friends when you see those at other tables, no communication with each other or their children because they are all wrapped up in what is going on on their phones. Facebook, WhatsApp, etc can wait till after dinner. If it is an emergency that person will call you and the caller will persist - different story. But yes, good old fashioned face to face communication is still the way to go.
Prishani said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 08:29 AM
I know that this is something my parents would love implementing every time we go out for dinner, sadly when I am out with my friends being on your phone isn't even considered rude anymore, its like we have adapted to the concept of at least one person being on their phone whether its at the dinner table or out at a club. Its quite sad actually and maybe by trying out this new rule we can actually have an entirely different experience by not looking at your phone at all while out! It definitely something I will consider recommending the next time I am out with a group of family or friends!
Sarah said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 07:43 AM
Zindy has a point as a parent you will check your phone or even give a call to see if your child is fine. It seems like a good idea to get people to social more but I guess with this game Pokemon go people are just on their phones the whole time.
Jessica Apfel said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 07:43 AM
I love this idea! I think it is outright rude when a person is head-down on their phone whilst trying to have a conversation with them. Let's interact, engage with real life issues, discuss the world around us. This is a clear indication of how people are stuck within their 'bubble' and the reason why people cant comment on state of play in our world at the moment. You can learn so much from another person.
Zindy said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 07:34 AM
I would be fitting the bill then I guess lol. As a parent you have an urge just to check your phone every now and then to make sure there are no messages that your child is not well or something along that line. Mothers always fear the worst. Its like having your heart beat out of your body.
david said:
on Friday 15-Jul-16 07:21 AM
what, TALK to people???
like, with your mouth???
wow, old skool, dude...
Johannesburg based attorney specializing in personal injury matters including Road Accident Fund claims and medical negligence matters. My interests include golf, reading and the internet and the way it is constantly developing. I have a passion for life and a desire for less stress!